What is fear? The opposite of faith! 

I took our soon to be 10 year old daughter to get her ears pierced last week.  This was the THIRD time we had attempted this in 4 years.  Our daughter is a sensitive creature BUT was determined to get them pierced and be brave this time.  She had a dear friend with her who went first and when it was our daughters time to have hers done, I whispered to her, ‘What you are feeling is fear, it is a normal human emotion.  Feeling the fear is more painful than the actual piercing of your ears.  What you have to trust is that the other side of fear is a golden ray of sunshine!"

This whole process was good for her self-esteem and self-awareness, learning to move through the fear and not run from it. 

It did help that there was promise of a big ice-cream cone at the end of it! 

“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know
…nothing ever really attacks us except our own confusion. Perhaps there is no solid obstacle except our own need to protect ourselves from being touched. Maybe the only enemy is that we don’t like the way reality is now and therefore wish it would go away fast, but what we find as practitioners is that nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. If we run a hundred miles an hour to the other end of the continent in order to get away from the obstacle, we find the very same problem waiting for us when we arrive. It just keeps returning with new names, forms, manifestations until we learn whatever it has to teach us about where we are separating ourselves from reality, how we are pulling back instead of opening up, closing down instead of allowing ourselves to experience fully whatever we encounter, without hesitating or retreating into ourselves.”
— Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
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